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On my mind this past week:

Poisonous folk
In my life these tend to be women, and they seem to go out of their way to say something to make me feel bad, either about myself or about a situation. These women are masters of the backhanded compliment. I am a generally positive person, meaning I try to look at the bright side (though I will blog when I’m feeling bad or blue). Unfortunately, I also have a very expressive face, so if you say something meant to make me feel bad, you will see that on my face, even if only for a moment, before I put a positive spin on it. But it’s sad that there are people out there who enjoy doing that. I’m not trying to be deliberately vague but it would serve no purpose to name names. If you feel like you have a tendency to be like this, I’d encourage you to work on it!

Thankfully I know some really positive people who have the opposite outlook on life…they know who they are!

Generosity
I want to be more generous, and I know I’ve probably mentioned it before. I want to be the kind of person who gives for no reason. I’m happy to say I have the whole “giving without expecting anything in return” bit down pat, but I need to GIVE MORE and DO MORE. My dad always says that sharing is really sharing when you don’t have enough: if you have a dozen cookies and you give someone a few of them, great, you are sharing, but when it’s one cookie and you’re both hungry and you split it, that’s a bit more meaningful because in the first case, you’re giving out of your excess, while in the second you’re genuinely inconveniencing yourself. Both are still sharing, but I would be more touched by someone sharing when it’s not comfortable or convenient for them to do so. I am looking for opportunities to brighten someone’s day by showing generosity; it doesn’t have to be monetarily or with material goods.

(While we’re on the topic, please consider giving to support the Haiti relief and rescue efforts.)

Communication
I don’t seem to want to talk on the phone as much as I used to. It will always be a main mode of communication for me (well, until people can start reading my thoughts), but it takes me a good week or two to either make a call or return a call, which is not like me at all. I don’t know why this has changed, or what I’m doing instead of calling, but this seems to be a new me. I did recently get a most heinous phone bill ($133 and some change, when my usual bill is $60) and I was grumpy about that for a good day, but I don’t think that’s the reason I’m suddenly phone-averse. Maybe 2010 is meant to be the year of a quieter Jummy?

I have a friend who I just have to think about calling and she calls me. It’s such a fool proof method that I have to be careful how I use these super powers I possess.

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It’s a random kind of day. I have a dozen errands to run but I’m tempted to hop back in bed instead. I have a KitchenAid stand mixer that wants to be christened too (so I can return it if it fails to make my every dream come true) and library books to return. I better git!

Filed under: Friends, Mundane by jummy