I received a call this evening out of the blue from a guy that I went on a date with back in June. The date was a stress-free re-introduction to the world of dating, a world I had not been a part of for quite a while. He is easily distracted by movements in his periphery, so that was very distracting to me. I also thought he was dressed too casually for the date (he wasn’t even wearing jeans) and I found it odd that he didn’t carry a wallet. He commented that my glasses were crooked during the date, in a way that wasn’t mean-spirited but rather “I observed something and I must share it”, so I’m sure he’ll be delighted to see me sporting new glasses.

He had called after our June date but didn’t leave a message, so I didn’t feel obliged to call him back. When he called tonight he asked why I hadn’t called him back and I told him that I don’t call back people who don’t leave messages. I think he got the message. I also told him about how distracted he appeared during our date and he apologized and told me that he is easily distracted and he’s aware of that. To be fair, he said the same thing during our date, after I gave him a pointed look or two.

He’d like to go on a second date. I’m amused because it’s been five months since our first meeting and I guess boredom led him to go through his list of contacts, see my name and decide to call me. We will be going to see 2012 on the weekend. I think best case scenario he wants a girlfriend, but he would also be happy to have someone to do things like go to the movies with. He was a nice enough guy and I have no fear that he will chop me up into tiny pieces so I said yes to the movie. He knows where I stand with regard to the importance of chemistry before I embark on a relationship and he’s ok with being friends, but we’ll see about that: he seems to feel that the best relationships develop from a friendship so he may be trying to try that tack with me. I plan to pay for my movie ticket and popcorn though.

I remember when I talked about this date with my single colleagues (more than half of whom are now in relationships!), the consensus was that he wasn’t worth going on a second date with, at least from the point of view of possibly getting a boyfriend out of the process. Back then I felt like I owed him a second date just to make sure that some of the things that raised my eyebrow (at least inwardly) weren’t due to first date jitters brought on by being faced by the beauty that is Jummy. Now I’m just looking at movies with him as a change from my usual weekend routine.

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