On the weekend I went shopping with my pregnant friend for her first maternity outfit (she’s five months along). Over a month after I found out that she was pregnant last year, I was shopping in the USA and I thought it would be a good idea to grab the book What to Expect When You’re Expecting for said friend. I’m not a good liar though, and I had been sworn to secrecy about the pregnancy so I knew if one of my shopping companions asked me who the book was for I’d blurt out the recipient’s name without thinking, so I didn’t buy it.

The next time I went to the States a month or so later, I bought the book, but knowing what an avid book reader my friend’s husband is, and how eager he was to procreate, I figured I’d ask casually if they already had the book and of course her husband had bought it a couple of weeks after their pregnancy was confirmed. So now I have a copy of this book and you’d think that I’d have cracked it open and read up on what my friend is going through, but I haven’t. Because of this I’m learning a lot of things that I didn’t know from my friend. For example, I had (and still have) no concept of how big babies are when you’re one, two, four, six months along. I had no idea that babies so small could kick. My mind was truly boggled that such a tiny thing had developed certain physical features so early on. I’d crack open the book and get more detail but I feel a bit superstitious about doing so, like learning all about pregnancy is something reserved for the pregnant alone.

But books on looking for love are right up my alley and I’m devouring them. I’m currently reading Secrets of a Fix-Up Fanatic: How to Meet and Marry Your Match. Before that I read Why Mr. Right Can’t Find You and Not Tonight, Mr. Right. So far I’ve found things to take away from each book, and had some beliefs of mine stirred up, and others confirmed. The challenge will come when I actually try to implement some of the things in the books, in particular the one I’m currently reading. It’s very convenient that some of the goals that I have for myself align quite well with things that will improve my chances of meeting a good guy.

So, I’ve been reading about finding love and feeling generally optimistic about the process, even though my online attempts (very tentative ineffective that they were) haven’t been fruitful. I’ve also been wondering if I’ll be planning a baby shower in the near future. I think the baby shower is something that’s more up to the mom than the friend but I could be wrong about that since I’ve seen both mothers and good friends host/throw such an event. Maybe I’m just trying to get out of it!

Filed under: Friends, Love?, Reading & Writing by jummy