Cleavage and cleaving together in holy matrimony
January 25, 2008
I had one of those days where I wished I had heeded that voice in my head that said “that tank top that you’re wearing under your sweater is a) too short and you’ll be constantly tugging it down and b) lower cut than you’d like so you’ll be tugging it up to ensure no hint of cleavage is showing.”
I didn’t heed that voice and all day I was tugging the top and bottom of the tank up and down, with both actions serving to counteract each other. Before you think I was also flashing all and sundry with (unwelcome) views of my chest, let me say that none of my clothing would ever be considered revealing because I hate showing cleavage.
Ok, let me take that back: I hate seeing/showing what I consider obscene cleavage. When you’ve been blessed to a certain degree (C cup or higher, in my inexpert view), I think you should engage in some corralling tactics to ensure that you’re not constantly showing off more than you should (according to me). A hint is nice, showing enough that all one sees a large fault line is not. I find it looks trashy and tasteless and just plain upsets my feminine sensibilities.
My cleavage woes are perfect because I spent the evening with somebody who shared her own cleavage woes with me and it’s nice to know I have an ally in the fight against cleavage baring.
I wasn’t going home after work; I went for dinner at Casa Frankewan. Frankewan are actually Allison and Pablo, friends who got engaged last summer, bought a house a few months after, and who I hadn’t seen since August. We finally managed to get together and had a great time: I got a tour of the house (love it) and met their new kitties, then it was time for dinner (yummy spaghetti and garlic bread) and Pablo was dismissed so we girls could gossip to our hearts’ content. And we did.
I’m a bit of a wedding buff nut freak fan, so I needed to get up to speed on all that had happened with respect to Allison’s wedding. We moved to talk of wedding photography, and I agree with Allison: the photojournalistic style is the way to go, and she introduced me to two new photographers who I may consider when my time comes, just in case I can’t afford to fly Ross out to shoot me: Perspective Eye and Andrew Geddes. She also showed me the portfolio of her photographer, and I think he’s going to do a fabulous job. I just hope these photographers are somewhat affordable by the time I’m ready to take my wedding pics.
Speaking of wedding photos, those of you who are already married or engaged: did you get engagement photos done? Do you wish you had/hadn’t? Personally, I’d love to have some “candid” shots taken of my beau and I as we tour our city, something that captures the excitement and fun of who we are as a couple. I don’t know if I’d actually be able to get professional engagement pictures done, and it seems this is something that mostly the wealthy indulge in (am I wrong?), but It would be fun to do a private shoot at the very least, something to capture the early times of the engagement.
There’s nothing wrong with cleavage, Jummy. Embrace the cleavage, EMBRACE IT!!!
Since I too am a wedding “fan,” I’m definitely going to do engagement photos as well as to document the entire ‘getting married’ process.
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Hmm, my cleavage says “Cover me up and don’t even try embracing or celebrating me!” Who am I to disobey?
If you do get pics done for the reason you say, I think the photojournalistic style is the only way to go!
Yes, we had an engagement photo done. And you’ll be shocked (not) at the reason. Because my mother said we had to. *rolls eyes* So off we headed to Wal-Mart. *snap* $9.99 (or was it $9.97 – Rollback). And she was able to put our photo in the paper. Getting “couple-y” photos done is not our style, even for wedding photos…just not us. But I am, as you know, getting mat photos done. So, to each their own!
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I think the traditional sort of photos that you and your husband had done are ideal for newspapers, while the photojournalistic style doesn’t work well for that. I saw your wedding pictures and I have to admit it’s the least posed one of the two of you that I love the most!
We didn’t get engagement photos, and I don’t regret it. They always look really POSED to me, so as to properly display the ring. Who sits like that?
However, cameras were constantly flashing at every event (engagement party, all three showers, bridesmaid lunch, rehearsal dinner), so I don’t have a lack of pictures.
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I think you had plenty of photo ops and you probably got a lot of different perspectives too, so that’s nice.
Like you I’m not crazy about overly posed pictures!
We have not gotten engagement photos. Maybe we should, but I figure if we ever feel the need to have professional photos taken of ourselves other than at our wedding, we can hire a photographer after we’re married and do it then.
We went with a photojournalistic style photographer, too. He did my sister’s wedding and I loved the photos. I’m excited to see what ours end up looking like. I also keep waiting for his name to pop up in one of the blogs I read. So far it hasn’t.
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Now I want to know who your photographer is!
You know what’s weird, that word means to stick together, AND to separate. It’s its own antonym. Wow.
We did an engagement session in our photographer’s studio. I’m glad we did, because it was a great portrait of us and matted it for signatures at our wedding. But in retrospect I would have used a different photographer and done something more like what you describe. Check out http://www.cameroningalls.com/blog – I admire his work very much!
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Thanks for the new blog. He does beautiful work and with his specialty being weddings, I know I’ll be checking out his site regularly.
Nothing wrong with cleavage! As long as it is “tastefully done”. Sexy is in and why not flaunt your body in a sexy engagement shoot. Engagement shoots give an opportunity for the photographer to get a feel for how you move and respond to the camera. It is also an opportunity for your photographer to explore how comfortable in front of the camera and with you! I always recommend a photographer who can do both photojournalism type photos and slightly posed photos. By that I mean, ones where they put you into a situation (set up the scene) and let your natural chemistry go from there! The result is natural believe it or not!