Lessons learned and true love lost, all in one day
February 7, 2007
A friend and I had a misunderstanding, unbeknownst to me, and I’m really glad that she brought it up with me tonight because I would have been completely clueless about the situation, while she would have probably been wondering at my gall. Now, I can be insensitive but usually not in such a deliberate way and even though I was hurt and even insulted during the conversation, by the end of it I felt good and I hope she did too. We reached three possible amicable solutions and while I know which one I would like her to make, I can be happy with the one that she’s made. So all is right in the world again with that friend [unfortunately she wasn't one of the three friends I was (not) fretting about in the last entry].
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Since Valentine’s Day is only a week away, thoughts of boys have been coming to mind. It’s starting to look like a male would have to be quite…special, part of a rarefied group to fancy a girl like me: I’m just plain weird! I need one of you to tell me how odd you are and how you never thought you’d find one person who’d “get” you or put up with you, but here are you are with serious significant other number two million and all his/her predecessors “got” you too! I need to believe this. I just can’t conceive of what qualities my match would have to possess to not only go on a date with me but actually repeat this proces. Long term. I know what I want, but is that really what I need and what will work for me? Who knows!
I saw a cute boy today on the bus and he was reading a big book so he must be smart! We got off at the same bus terminal so we must be have been meant to be! He had these glasses on that made him look oh so studiously sexy. I cast him sidelong glances [which he failed to notice], then I kept sidling closer to him [remember: I have the dating skills of a prepubescent teen], hoping that he’d find the abominable snow-woman inching closer to him, hood on and trying to look alluring yet intelligent, worthy of a smile or a hello. He didn’t even notice!
[He's just trying to make it a good story for the grandkids, right?]
The only thing that got his attention was the arrival of his connecting bus, which he promptly boarded and zoomed off into the cold night and out of my life for another day. Sigh.
My high school boyfriend definitely got me despite the fact that I am terribly grumpy, unaffectionate, and generally bitchy. We were together for three yeas, during which he didn't care if I gained or lost large amounts of wieght, he didn't care if I shaved my legs (Seriously. He did not care if my legs were shaved.).
He was popular and had lots of friends (We were fourteen when we started dating) and he was oh-so handsome. His family was pretty well-off and he always had the cool clothes, shoes, etc.
I've no idea why he picked me when we started dating. When he started coming around my locker and such, I was thinking, what's up with this guy? There was no loical reason for someone so great to want me or to be interested in me, and yet, we were together for three years.
Now, after those three years he became a drug addicted patholoigical liar, among other things. But, at the time we started dating? It was seriously beyond me.
my wurdy guess amicable
maybe you have the problem i have, the ones i like dont like me
and the ones that do like me i dont like.
hehaw
WordyGurdy: rarefied
I'm cheating now cause that's the kind of competitive, over-achieving nutcase I am and yet I've managed to snag a husband. Not sure how – I think it's mostly luck.
ps – cheating on wordygurdy not my spouse lol
I typically had guys liking me… I just didn't so much like any of THEM. Also an icky problem.
jumms, everyone, and I mean EVERYONE is quirky, strange, downright bizarre in their own right. You are no more weird or odd than the next duck. There will be a man who totally "gets" the essence of Jummy. You will most likely stumble across him when you least expect it. And only after you realize that the person who finds you special isn't mystical or magical or any other amazing adjective. He simply recognizes what has been there all along.
In otherwords, trust that you are wonderful, amazing, special, outstanding, etc. Only then will someone else realize it too. :)
wordygurdy gurdy word: rarefied
I'll go with rarefied too…seems popular!
I have also had the Matt/Laura problem of liking people who didn't like me back and having people like me that I didn't like back (like that). Very awkward!
One thing I will say…the guy I'm with now, whom I met online and have been with for over 7 years thank you very much, didn't seem like my 'type' at first, but I am so glad I ignored that! He seemed too nice and proper, kinda preppy, etc. But I soon found out he has a whole other side to him that I totally love (and I love the nice stuff too of course, I just thought it would be boring if that's all there was!).
All I'm saying is be open to people other than just the ones you think are your type. Of course you still have to be compatible, I'm not saying pick someone who doesn't have anything in common with you. I think you know what I mean. Common sense doesn't go out the window…or maybe it does. My Uncle just told me a quote yesterday "The heart knows reason which reason does not know."
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